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A 40-year-old single divorcee is giving relationship advice.

A poor man is giving Dangote business strategies.

Only in Nigeria

If she was so knowledgeable about marriage, she would have been married.

goran3310:
And don't f.uck with him if he is not marriage material

A lady who meets her spec of a man will be the one to initiate sex.

Ladies who usually want a man to make their intention known to them within a week are mostly active, on-break or retired (practically there's not really retired sha) stre - et girls from 28 above.

Their hide all the identities within this short period in order to manipulate the innocent man into marriage.

Meanwhile, men are the ones that suppose to dig deep about a girl before making your intention known to her

Chilipepper:
Businesswoman Rene Advises Mid-Twenties Women on Dating



https://x.com/Rene_noire/status/1933183533209497679?t=VtZJsLcofMe4qBO6C7elew&s=19

i TRUST ma GEES dem go ur ROUND oo.. we go CODENAME "2weeks".... na u go GAIN MILEAGE oo unty
emergency EXIT

Sonnobax15:

This is certainly the first time after a very long time I'm hearing the phrase -"talking stage" .

Cuz no responsible and reasonable young man of this generation will waste his time trying to woo a lady......a truck-load of worthless liability for that Matter

Personally,na from our first two conversation or chat go determine whether the "thingy" go get head,cuz from that every wise man don suppose know banny wey get sense or the one wey her brain get affiliation with that of a native hen

When did this talking stage nansense even start sef? I no dey talking stage matter. Once i approach you and you begin give me stress in the name of talking stage, i give you chance. No time to waste. Me wey dey find money. No just waste my time. If you dey, you dey. If you no dey then ship out!
How your hustle for jakpa road and Effurun round about?

Sonnobax15:

This is certainly the first time after a very long time I'm hearing the phrase -"talking stage" .

Cuz no responsible and reasonable young man of this generation will waste his time trying to woo a lady......a truck-load of worthless liability for that Matter

Personally,na from our first two conversation or chat go determine whether the "thingy" go get head,cuz from that every wise man don suppose know banny wey get sense or the one wey her brain get affiliation with that of a native hen

that's because you came to nairaland. this website is a cesspool

Who started this "talking stage" ish

We just cook template every now not then

Good advice.

Although women have to know how to reciprocate so the man can take things forward.

Do not be reactive only, but also proactive. Lots of guys will NOT move things forward when they feel like they are the only one doing everything.

Being an intentional man doesnt makes me undeserving of the effort I put out. Ask me about my day too, and show effort that you care, and will meet me half way.

Most importantly, you must not burden him with bills in this delicate stage, DON'T TRY IT. Do not ask for transport (except its an interstate distance), and on your first date, compose yourself and act responsibly with food orders.

I know lots of women will frown at this, but you must know that when it comes to marriage, men hold the higher cards, and it is up to you to make him see value in you, so he can offload other options and focus strictly on you.

You must know that with each unreasonable standards you set, you are eliminating yourself from his options. Because he will compare you to other girls he is talking to, and you will rank really low.

Same way you have eliminated lots of men, because you have other options. Why don't you think it is the same for men?

Also, men's rejection is way more deadly because you wont know you have been rejected in the first place. He just wont approach or move thing forwards.

So realise that as you want a man to impress you, in reality, it is you that have to impress him. He can impress you when he just want to fork, but for marriage, he is the one paying your brideprice, and only a woman that is good will win it.

You are welcome.

pansophist:
Good advice.

Although women have to know how to reciprocate so the man can take things forward.

Do not be reactive only, but also proactive. Lots of guys will NOT move things forward when they feel like they are the only one doing everything.

Being an intentional man doesnt makes me undeserving of the effort I put out. Ask me about my day too, and show effort that you care, and will meet me half way.

Most importantly, you must not burden him with bills in this delicate stage, DON'T TRY IT. Do not ask for transport (except its an interstate distance), and on your first date, compose yourself and act responsibly with food orders.

I know lots of women will frown at this, but you must know that when it comes to marriage, men hold the higher cards, and it is up to you to make him see value in you, so he can offload other options and focus strictly on you.

You must know that with each unreasonable standards you set, you are eliminating yourself from his options. Because he will compare you to other girls he is talking to, and you will rank really low. Same way you have eliminated lots of men, because you have other options. Why don't you think it is the same for men? Also, men's rejection is way more deadly because you wont know you have been rejected in the first place. He just wont approach or move thing forwards. So realise that as you want a man to impress you, in reality, it is you that have to impress him. He can impress you when he just want to fork, but for marriage, he is the one paying your brideprice, and only a woman that is good will win it. You are welcome.

What I am surprised by is the change of tone compared to five years ago. The same lady (Rene) would have charged them (tweets are there to bear me witness) to date many men in the search for the right one, and how young women have enough time to have fun.

How time flies.....

I never imagined one of the renowned feminist leaders would promote early marriage or sharp sharp marriage simply on the basis of age. The same people criticised Lamido Sanusi when he got married to his bride and NL's Ja.rus. All of a sudden, ladies should get married on or before 30.

Sweet Jesus.

Gerrard59:

What I am surprised by is the change of tone compared to five years ago. The same lady (Rene) would have charged them (tweets are there to bear me witness) to date many men in the search for the right one, and how young women have enough time to have fun.

How time flies.....

Time is the great humbler, and no one escapes it.

The realities of a girl in her teens or 20's is vastly different from when they are in their 30's.

Same men they believe will revolve around them like flies will reduce and reduce, and in many case, they have gotten so deep in their bad character, that being bitter is the only way out, because they cant change.

And if they do the hardwork and change, they cant change men's nature that prefer women in their 20's. So the formula to get the best man is to be a good woman in your 20's, not a good woman in your 30's.

Adewale1603:
This woman dey play
She has forgotten that
Average 25yrs old in Nigeria are still in the university. So is it serious relationship should now be their concerns, people wey never graduate, talk less of having a Job

With minimal strike actions and many tertiary institutions to choose from, that age should have been reduced to say 23. If you say inclusive of NYSC, then you are correct.

jmoore:
Meet a good friend of his?


Me that is an extreme introvert that doesn't have any friend.

There's no single good person on planet earth who has no friend.

If you say you don't have any single friend, then you have a big problem.

Adewale1603:
I'm introverted than you








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Is being an introvert now a competition?

TechBaron:
There's no single good person on planet earth who has no friend.

If you say you don't have any single friend, then you have a big problem.

The problem is you defining a standard for a population of billions.

pansophist:
Good advice.

Although women have to know how to reciprocate so the man can take things forward.

Do not be reactive only, but also proactive. Lots of guys will NOT move things forward when they feel like they are the only one doing everything.

Being an intentional man doesnt makes me undeserving of the effort I put out. Ask me about my day too, and show effort that you care, and will meet me half way.

Most importantly, you must not burden him with bills in this delicate stage, DON'T TRY IT. Do not ask for transport (except its an interstate distance), and on your first date, compose yourself and act responsibly with food orders.

I know lots of women will frown at this, but you must know that when it comes to marriage, men hold the higher cards, and it is up to you to make him see value in you, so he can offload other options and focus strictly on you.

You must know that with each unreasonable standards you set, you are eliminating yourself from his options. Because he will compare you to other girls he is talking to, and you will rank really low.

Same way you have eliminated lots of men, because you have other options. Why don't you think it is the same for men?

Also, men's rejection is way more deadly because you wont know you have been rejected in the first place. He just wont approach or move thing forwards.

So realise that as you want a man to impress you, in reality, it is you that have to impress him. He can impress you when he just want to fork, but for marriage, he is the one paying your brideprice, and only a woman that is good will win it.

You are welcome.

Exactly!

But let them continue living in self delusion.

Relationships shouldn’t be this hard though. What is talking stage? What do you need three dates for when all you do is to impress each other? Let me guess, talking stage is that period you spend chatting on the phone and online, using your best hooks, lies, and fantasies, sharing your best photos from your gallery? You people have reduced friendship to talking stage.

Three Dates? That’s the hangout where you wear one of your best dresses, style your hair, put on your best shoes and perfume just to eat food and drink things you don’t have at home?

This generation, una too like wahala and optics. Relationship no suppose hard like this. Be yourself.

DCmonster:
They never talk about values or building their life early. It's always nonsense, because they only care about themselves and not you.

As a man below 30, don't date any woman above the age of 24. As a man above 30 and below 40 don't date or marry any woman above the age of 27.


Most importantly never go on any date with a girl you ain't dating already as a Nigerian it's not your culture and it's a waste of your time and resources.

If to say we dey stay for dsame hood ehn, I for host u for weekend to chill out on some few Budweiser cos of this sensible talk I talk so !!!

Always define your relationships. In Project Management, it's called Scope Statement (inclusions & exclusions), but Pls don't dabble into sexual escapades & don't exchange gifts or money... Know ur genotypes & blood groups. Don't waste anyone's precious time.

Move on ...

Those you dey preach to as naughty and shallow minded. Love of money had taken over their brain cells.

DCmonster:
They never talk about values or building their life early. It's always nonsense, because they only care about themselves and not you.

As a man below 30, don't date any woman above the age of 24. As a man above 30 and below 40 don't date or marry any woman above the age of 27.

Most importantly never go on any date with a girl you ain't dating already as a Nigerian it's not your culture and it's a waste of your time and resources.

They do and you tell them men do not care about their money/achievements. Just last week a DOCTOR shamed women who want to build their lives.

Truth is, women can never please you sons of Nebuchadnezzar. Looking at your post, the confusion is already evident. Never date a woman above 24, never date a woman above 27. Yet they should talk about building early? At the detriment of not having an almighty husband? I bet you are one of those HRs that wants 22yrs old graduates with 16yrs working experience. But you think you made sense and 15 logical people think same so far.

You can see how wicked some women can be, you didn’t even also say the guy should find out if she works or does hook up. It’s only what the man can bring to the table. A girl that will plan big wedding with only N100k in her bank as life savings. N100k that it’s most likely you that gave her the money.

That is after wasting all your youthful age dancing and shaking yansh on social media and jumping from one Tom and Jerry to another.

You're not serious.

Tenisam:
move on in 3 weeks until you start having large portfolios of talking stage. I met you and in 3 weeks i should be telling you that you are the woman of my dreams we can all to be good and after you turn something else. in as much you don't want to waste time, shine your eyessss

Allow your daughter to be in situationship for half a year na.

Get the message.obviously most men aren't in love at that early stage,but he should show interest in you at least and show signs of intending investment in you .

Within two weeks he should have told you he is attracted to you and wants a relationship

Whether it leads to a relationship or marriage,I can't tell.

jmoore:
Meet a good friend of his?


Me that is an extreme introvert that doesn't have any friend.

you just lied. Be calming down nah.......,.........................................

This one don smoke something, na naija abi Yankee girls you de talk to? If na the latter… 🤣

dealslip:
Dont sleep with men until marriage[/b], if he is unclear about what he wants move on fast. For a man to walk up to you to ask you out, he must have seen something but if he cant articulate what he wants with you, move on, The lady must also be able to articulate what she wants as well. Life is too serious for anyone to waste it for you. Make sure you are a high value woman, dont wait for money or gifts from anyone, it helps you to filter red flags very fast because you wont have entangled yourself with a person you have not decided whether you want to marry or not. Dont wait for a man's validation, validate yourself by being a valuable lady and marry valuable men. Avoid children at all cost, there are too many men child out there.

[b]in addition don't turn to a beggar until marriage, don't ask any man for money relationship is not a poverty eradication scheme for women. Why do you ladies like avoiding the money part when you say don't sleep with men until marriage?

Adewale1603:
This woman dey play
She has forgotten that
Average 25yrs old in Nigeria are still in the university. So is it serious relationship should now be their concerns, people wey never graduate, talk less of having a Job

Do most women in this part of the world even think having a job is necessary in relationships? Them no send you ooo

jmoore:
Meet a good friend of his?


Me that is an extreme introvert that doesn't have any friend.

just incase he is not the one, you try his friend i guess